Tiger Philosophy lesson 160: 2015 goals reviewed

doelen 2015I love this period of the year, it allows me to assess my hard work during the year. When we set goals we are in an orgasmic state. In that state there are no limits and everything is possible. It feels like the summer but when the winter comes with it’s hardships, every next step becomes havier and one falls down into the post orgasmic state. In which the fire and the desire are extinguished. We have to train our self to survive the winter with the knowledge  that the  summer is coming.

I would like to go through my own goals of 2015 and evaluate them goal by goal. It is interesting to see what mistakes I have made and what improvement can be done for 2016 goals.

I use the word SMART which stands for (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant,Time-bound)

Personal development:
    1.  MCSE certification (not achieved), no clear study material from Microsoft to learn from.
  1. Webb & app Development (not achieved), with my new job and the amount of time needed to learn this, it was not realistic to achieve this in 2015.
  2. Read 12 books (partially achieved) I read 8 books this year, I was not specific enough which books to read, there is a big difference in reading Karl Marx or Harry Potter.
  3. Write 12 tiger philosophies (partially achieved), because I want them to be really good, I get into the never start syndrome.
  4. Finish the book IQ challenge (not achieved), takes too much time and not really a relevant goal.
Health:
  1. Run the Marathon of Amsterdam 42km (achieved), it was hard work.
  2. Train at least 2 times fitness and 2 times kickboxing every week, (partially achieved), this is not a SMART goal.
  3. Weight 70kg and body fat of 10% (not achieved), I was not disciplined enough to stick to my diet.

Relationship:

  1. Help my wife to pass her exams (not achieved), she hasn’t passed her exams yet.

  2. Send my wife to Pakistan for holiday (achieved).

  3. Keep visiting my family ones a week (partially achieved), not a SMART goal.

  4. Make my wife happiest women (partially achieved), not a SMART goal, difficult to measure 🙂

Carrier:
  1. Find a job as a Business intelligence developer (achieved).
  2. Earn salary of 5000 euro net (not achieved), I am confident I will next year.
  3. Start my own coaching company (not achieved), I have parked this goal, it is too much work at the moment in this  period of my life.
  4. Start a start-up with friends (not achieved), although we made a good effort to do so.
  5. Help friends to find a job (not achieved), although most of them are working now.
Spiritual:
  1. Pray 5 times a day (partially achieved), not disciplined enough.
  2. Go for 10 days to Vipassana mediation Kamp (not achieved), with the baby it was difficult to do that this year.
Financial:
  1. Pay of 10.000 euro of my 50.000 euro debt (achieved)
  2. Save 10.000 euro (achieved), I don’t have direct access to the money but it’s there.
  3. Help my wife to start a company (not achieved), not SMART enough.

I can look at this year and say, “so many goal  not achieved”,  or I can say, “I have run the full marathon, I have paid of 10000 euro of my debt, I have great job with good  perspectives and I am full of fire  to achieve my 2016 goals”.

Remember “Success requires no Explanation and failure permits no Alibis.

The question that arises, what is success?

Tiger philosophy lesson 148: Why I think you will not be successful!

First I would like to point out to the reader, the word “you” is not refered  particularly to the reader. I as the writer do not have the answer for you the reader. Rather this is an investigation together into this philosophy.

Before continuing I want to define and isolate the meaning of “success” in  framework of this philosophy. “Success” is climbing higher into the ladder of hierarchical structure of the society. The whole hierarchical structure in the society can be translated into money, power and influence.  In this context I am excluding the meaning of “Success” which can be translated into love and  health.

Being effective in acquiring more success by using  our  friendships as tools to achieve our means. The fittest the more successful survivor will be happier because of more abundance and choices in his life. In this thinking morality is not pursued  actively. Through this philosophy one  achieves higher degree of  morality  unconsciously. It is totally opposite to one who is consciously living a good and moral  life.

The statement:  “We are too busy in our life with our self, that we do not get the most out of our life for our self.”  The more I think about this statement  the more profound this statement becomes.

Having a clear focus which is backed up by an intelligent, disciplined and determined mind is not enough to climb into the ladder of success. A strong  platform of  cooperation is the final ingredient which is needed to get to the next level. From the single selfish gene to this complex bodily structure of  human beings there is tremendous cooperation.  Every single unit wants to survive that is its main objection. To survive it has to cooperate with others, it has to help others to survive to help survive itself.  To be selfish, to be in tune with our nature we need to be unselfish to support our selfish nature.

What does all this mean in practical terms? In order to reach for higher grounds, we need to support  others to climb higher. We need to think in terms of the others  instead of our self. We need to think how we can contribute instead of what we can get out of it. We need to create a strong wall of support for each other. In which ‘everybody’  has a certain sense of power which is created by this strong dynamism  of the group. A foundation of support  so strong that each  person can build his  own empires on it. This strong foundation can be created by being in service of each other. Seeing the challenges of life of  others as our own responsibility.

I am not saying  this from an altruistic point of view  rather my reasons are very  selfish and practical in nature. Majority of the people  will  disagree at this point, because they are already too busy or do not have the high energy level to go for the extra mile. These people have missed  the whole point.

There are some  very effective individuals  who  are successful. The success I am talking about is like the rays of sun and must not be confused for light of the bulb. 

My own failures  and losses in pursuit of success have  made me see things beyond the  visible and have forced me to   hear sounds  through the noise.

An investigation!

Tiger philosophy lesson 143: New years eve

Once again we are at the crossroad of the new year. It is a beautiful moment to stop and look inside ourself to evaluate if we are heading in the right direction. To awaken ourself from a dream state and be present in this moment. To reflect, to ponder upon and  to ask the most significant question of all, “How has my life been meaningful so far? ”.  This is not a question for some but for all of us! This question arises in us when we are acting from a responsible position in life.

What has happened in all my honesty to me in the previous year? I have felt fear, frustration, rejection,  sadness, disappointment. Despite everything I have kept my focus  onto that I truly desire in life. I have gained many insights during this journey. I have learned that I can be happy and peaceful despite  problems, difficulties, disappointments, deceases, fears, rejections…  A discontinuity from the outside factors in relationship to  my inner Pease.

I have learned that I have always the choice to choose for that which is in alignment with my deepest desires at any given moment. Continue reading