The good, the bad and the ugly! I have met happy drugs dealer, happy drugs addicted, happy businessmen, happy unemployed, happy married couples, happy divorcées, Happy pensioners, happy students, happy prostitutes, happy burgundies, happy atheist, happy virgins, happy singles, happy parents, happy Buddhist, happy nudist, happy Muslims, happy Christians, happy Jews, happy Hindus, happy friends, happy enemies, happy good men, happy evil men, happy alcoholics, happy structured people , happy impulsive people, happy rich people, happy poor people. Happy ambitious people, happy just happy people, happy criminals, happy gangsters, happy sadists, happy masochists and so much more happy people I have met recently.

That the happiness has gone beyond my understanding and I have become very sad because of that.

Attractiveness between men and women depends of their differences in there sexes. The more man poses manly qualities the more he will be attractive to the women. The more women poses female qualities the more she will be attractive for the man. The man must keep the hunter quality alive and the women must keep the caring quality alive.

Keep the balance!

Recently i met à girl, she said “you have a very dark and a very good side in you”. I asked, “what is my good side, she replied, ” you are sweet, kind, intelligent, somebody you can trust and relay on. Like a good buddy you want to spend time with and talk for hours”. Then I asked ,”what about my Dark side?”. She said “you are very dominant, aggressive and mysterious, one cannot predict you, because of that you excite me and turn me wild.” I was surprised by the insight and said RESPECT to the dark side!

Respect the dark side!!

So one night I was sitting and talking to my shadow. I asked the shadow, “What is needed to make men happy?” The shadow replied, “to fulfill every desire of men of course”. Suppose my shadow, if al men’s desire where to fulfilled, will that make men happy? “I guess so”, answered the shadow. But is there an end to the desire of men?

I ones heard a story of Sikander(Alexander the Great) that one day he met Diogenes on his way. Diogenes was sitting naked in his own dirt, Sikander saw him and was inspired by the man. He went to him and said, “do you know who I am”. Diogenes answered, “the sun was shining on my face and you are interrupting the sunlight”.

Sikander become very angry but also admired the courage of this old man. “ I am on a mission to conquer the world”. Diogenes asked, “what will you do when you have conquered the world, what will you conquer then”. It is said that Sikander became depressed of the very thought, what he will do when he has conquered the world.

So my shadow, this idea haunts me that I will be never truly happy, because I will never be able to fulfill my desires, because desire of men is like bottomless bucket.

The desire !

Ones a man asked me what does life mean to you. I answered, “it is a harsh competitive struggle, from very beginning to the end. It seems a continues journey of fight and test in which only the strongest prevails.

The man was surprised by my answer as I was of his comment. For me he said, “Life has been a beautiful adventure, full of love and beauty, passion and excitements. In which I lived as exactly as I desired. There were some up’s and some downs, but from the very beginning till the very end it has and will be a beautiful experience”

So I wandered are we both talking about the same life?

Understanding one thing from multiple perspectives!

A question was asked, “why is there so much hate, pain and misery in the world.”

A replay came in form of a question, “Do you REALLY want to end the wars, to stop the hunger, to diminish the poverty, to eliminate the misery and the unfairness trialed?”.

To my very surprise I could not confirm this question with utmost certainty.

The satisfaction of the “I”

There seems to be a confusion in what is meant to live a good life. It is said that there are people who live out of there head and there are others who live out of there heart and there seems to be a big gap in between their understanding of life in its purest form

One way to look at life is from the point of present, the other way to look at life is from the last moment till present. Following ones feeling and desire seems right but one must remember what taste good in the mouth may become bitter in the bally. This is the way of the artist.

Great master used to take there disciples to the cemeteries. The disciples had to set the direction of their life keeping the graves and the skeletons in their mind. This is the way of inner journey, desire and feeling have no space in these fields.

So three categories can be determined, living form the heart, the head or distancing from the both.

The question remains, what is to lead a good life!

A thought creates a certain attitude, an attitude creates a certain feeling our feelings result in a certain action, repeated actions become our habit and our character is a collection of accumulated habits.

We may be happy with it or not, but our character is initiated by how we think.

There were two twins, they had an alcoholic father. The boys grew up in a same harsh environment. After many years they were asked the same question, “How is your life ?” The first brother answered, “My life is a tragedy, but what could I do, may father was an alcoholic and I had a terrible youth”. The second brother answered,” My life is a gift, at a very young age I decided I want to have a happy and a successful life because my father was an alcoholic and I had a terrible youth.

The freedom of choice

There are moments when I think that I understand but I don’t. There are moments when I think I can but in reality I can’t. Then there are moments I should grasp but I let them pass by and there are some moments I should fight but I choose to flight. There are also moments when I should act but instead I choose to react.

Then there have been many other moments when I should have expressed but I “ chose” to repress also some moments where I should have continued but quitted to fast. At some moments I should have listened instead I spoke to fast, many many many … other moments have been there.

Contemplating the past…..…

There used to be a fish called Vispuscana. Vispuscana, was the most intriguing, curious and energetic creature one could find in the great ocean. Always willing to help others, always wanting to learn and laugh. One day a big fish from the deep blue sea came and told the story of the great waters in the oceans. That as far as ones eye could see there where layers upon layers of water .

The story made Vicpuscana so curious, “ what is this water” , she asked? The thought of not knowing what water was made her so sad.

This was the sadness of Vispuscana that she could not see that she was surround by the deep waters, she was living in these great waters, water was all around her, but she was not able to see it. Because it was so nearby and she was in search for something far away.