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The most beautiful and important word ever created by men is the word “I”. Use it wisely and with great love, because this word represent your most basic and authentic nature.

There is an Arabic saying , when god created men, he whispered in each and everybody’s ear, “you are my best creation ever”.

The beginning of downfall.

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A very gentle man was telling me about the concepts of a tolerating society , respecting other person’s values. Nobody has any right to preach to others about right or wrong. He said, “I think it is crazy that people still have a very negative approach towards homosexuality and still are making racist remarks”.

I said I totally agree with you about being tolerant and everybody has right to feel and think as he/she pleases to choose. I myself find conflict with other people, when I say I disapprove homosexuality totally, that I feel very racist toward everybody who is of different nationality and color then I am, I approve fascism and I feel very strongly that the strong and intelligent must rule over the weak and the lesser.

The man stood up and called me a ”bastard”. I was puzzled by his behavior, what about my feelings, what about tolerating me as individual in my own right with all my thoughts and emotions.

The complexity of Tolerance!

My life, My thoughts, My opinion!

Finding ones true nature: I have heard a story about a very brave lion (Mufasa). He was a true king of the jungle. Life was good, there were no threats and food was in affluence. His young son (Simba) played the whole day with, herds, lams, sheep’s and other animals. There was no need to learn to hunt, there was no need to learn to fight. Sometime when the young lion got angry during play he would roar, but other animals would laugh at him instead of getting scared.

Mufasa saw this and was little concerned about Simba. Simba came to Mufasa and said, “why do they laugh at me when I roar, that happens never to you!”

Mufasa said my dear son, “when I was your age, my father send me to the top of the highest mountain to find my roar there, your is also there, you have to go and find it for yourself”. Simba got very excited and went to his journey to find his roar. Mufasa new this was a very risky journey but he also knew that Simba had to walk upon this path alone. The young lion went on his journey, running through hot dessert and cold nights, with not much food. Simba had to hunt to survive, walking upon thorns and difficult jungles, fighting against his enemies, wounded, hungry and hurt but he kept his focus towards his destiny. When he reached the top with great difficulty, he roared, and it is said that no lions roar had ever been heard like that before. It could be heard for thousand kilometers around the jungle and he had claimed his kingdom by the power of his roar and had found his true self in this harsh journey.

One must find it’s true self, the lion is not a herd or sheep he is a lion, to live a life of a lion is the purpose of his life.

In the end nothing matters but in meanwhile one must find his true self!

This story is inspired my friend (Majid Khan)

Learn to look at the intrinsic value of things. Paying a big amount could be paying very little relative to its true value and vice versa paying very little for something could mean paying too much.

These rules are universal; they can be applied to things as to people.

The search for growth!

When running in the morning, I was thinking of sleeping again. When I went to sleep I was thinking of getting up again. When I finally woke up I was thinking of getting late at work. When I was waiting for the bus I was thinking of reading my book. When I was reading my book I was thinking about a problem at work. When I was at work I was doing everything else but work………….

What so ever we do we do not do it with our full attention. When we are not with our fullest attention in our experience we miss the moment. Most of our soring for the past time is due to lack of a full experience. we miss the past because we never ever truly experienced the past. When we experience the moment in its fullest altitude, it becomes timeless, then there is no missing or thinking back. Because it is a part of our full experience.

What we miss from the past is what we have not experienced in its fullest.

In the morning I was very happy, in the evening I felt a great sadness. The loud music of my neighbors made me angry, after their apology I felt a great understanding for them. Looking at the beautiful sky outside I felt very alive but after 10 minutes I was terribly board of the same sky. I met a girl of whom I got very excited in the beginning, but after just 3 days I lost all my interest in her. Successfully accomplishing a big project gave me tremendous self-confidence in my abilities , but after one drawback I had the greatest self-doubt ever. A stranger smiled at me and I felt great love for him, then my friend post boned our appointment and I felt terribly rejected by him. Again I was very happy for no reason and later I was very sad for no reason.

What is this turmoil of emotions.? Is this what we call normal? Where everything in us is determined by everything outside us! Do we accept this way of “normal” life where one lives a life of a dead leave carried by the wind in what so ever directions the wind pleases to move.

Are we so weak/strong that we cannot decide for our self what we truly want? Are we the masters of our life or are we the slave of our emotions? And what does it mean to go beyond our emotions, is that equal to a lifeless life, or is there much more to it then it meets the eye?

I do not know the answers; all I know is what I feel!

The never ending story!

The good, the bad and the ugly! I have met happy drugs dealer, happy drugs addicted, happy businessmen, happy unemployed, happy married couples, happy divorcées, Happy pensioners, happy students, happy prostitutes, happy burgundies, happy atheist, happy virgins, happy singles, happy parents, happy Buddhist, happy nudist, happy Muslims, happy Christians, happy Jews, happy Hindus, happy friends, happy enemies, happy good men, happy evil men, happy alcoholics, happy structured people , happy impulsive people, happy rich people, happy poor people. Happy ambitious people, happy just happy people, happy criminals, happy gangsters, happy sadists, happy masochists and so much more happy people I have met recently.

That the happiness has gone beyond my understanding and I have become very sad because of that.

Attractiveness between men and women depends of their differences in there sexes. The more man poses manly qualities the more he will be attractive to the women. The more women poses female qualities the more she will be attractive for the man. The man must keep the hunter quality alive and the women must keep the caring quality alive.

Keep the balance!

Recently i met à girl, she said “you have a very dark and a very good side in you”. I asked, “what is my good side, she replied, ” you are sweet, kind, intelligent, somebody you can trust and relay on. Like a good buddy you want to spend time with and talk for hours”. Then I asked ,”what about my Dark side?”. She said “you are very dominant, aggressive and mysterious, one cannot predict you, because of that you excite me and turn me wild.” I was surprised by the insight and said RESPECT to the dark side!

Respect the dark side!!

So one night I was sitting and talking to my shadow. I asked the shadow, “What is needed to make men happy?” The shadow replied, “to fulfill every desire of men of course”. Suppose my shadow, if al men’s desire where to fulfilled, will that make men happy? “I guess so”, answered the shadow. But is there an end to the desire of men?

I ones heard a story of Sikander(Alexander the Great) that one day he met Diogenes on his way. Diogenes was sitting naked in his own dirt, Sikander saw him and was inspired by the man. He went to him and said, “do you know who I am”. Diogenes answered, “the sun was shining on my face and you are interrupting the sunlight”.

Sikander become very angry but also admired the courage of this old man. “ I am on a mission to conquer the world”. Diogenes asked, “what will you do when you have conquered the world, what will you conquer then”. It is said that Sikander became depressed of the very thought, what he will do when he has conquered the world.

So my shadow, this idea haunts me that I will be never truly happy, because I will never be able to fulfill my desires, because desire of men is like bottomless bucket.

The desire !